39 bags of leaves later, this is what i’ve learned …
December 5, 2010
:: my memories of raking leaves as a child are clearly romanticized and seen through rose-colored glasses
:: raking leaves, particularly over bark and rocks, is hard work
:: i should have been a better instructor/manager of the project from the beginning (instead of giving some cursory instruction and then being very hands-off, justifying that it’s her job)
:: doing a ginormous leaf-raking job is a big job for a child’s first job
:: evidence of a child’s lack of a strong work ethic is convicting for a mama
:: my child needs much more practice doing much more work (the daily and weekly chores are not instilling the ethic i’d like to see)
:: allowing said child to do only a minimum amount of raking each day, leaving the bulk of work for the last day, was a mistake on my part. i should have established time frames and expectations to be met daily.
:: my husband – responding to my plea of frustration on (what i thought was) the final day, was a life-saver – infusing much-needed perspective and encouragement to this mama. he provided amazing instruction to maddie and helped oversee much of the rest of the project.
:: my hubby is so much better at the methodical, unemotional, painstakingly-detailed instruction, than i am. i want to be doing much more to train my daughter in household tasks and although i could say she does a fair share of chores for a 10 year old, i feel challenged to increase her mastery of other household tasks.
:: training takes hard work (for the parent); detailed explanation and oversight until the skill is learned. (why is it sometimes easier just to sweet the floor myself!?)
:: hard work FEELS good,when it’s done. working hard beyond the point of personal comfort, and completing a larger task, provides such a sense of satisfaction upon completion. i want to remember this and keep this at the forefront of my mind as i train and teach maddie, both in household tasks, in schooling, in life.