feeding and sleeping …
April 23, 2011
let me start by saying that i think that comparing ourselves to others can really rob us (me) of joy. so, my aim in sharing my thoughts here, and seeking feedback, is not to compare … but rather, to hear the experiences and insights of others. i have much to learn! and i know that ultimately, my direction and counsel comes from GOD and His Word. but the beauty of relationships, of living life in community, is that we can share and encourage and learn alongside one another!
so, to my point … hee hee. i am so curious about what has worked (and not worked) for other mama’s, on the whole “demand-feed” vs “babywise” approach.
for some context: precious josiah will be 3 weeks old tomorrow (growing so quickly!). in the past few days, a couple of things have become very apparent: 1- he likes to eat (or is it, snack!?) OFTEN – as in, at least every 2 hours; and 2- he prefers (read: needs) to be held in order to fall asleep.
and here’s the thing: i love nothing more than holding my baby, rocking him to sleep, feeding when he’s hungry, etc. by nature, i am a nurturer and definitely tend toward the “demand-feed” end of the spectrum.
however, one of my big goals before having josiah, was to do things a bit differently with this baby. maddie was never a “good” sleeper; she required holding, coddling, soothing, etc … to fall asleep and stay asleep, for a couple years. it was crazy-making, and i determined to at minimum, train this baby toward falling asleep on his own. after rereading “babywise”, i’m reminded of the author’s fundamental point: sleeping is tied inherently to feeding, and the scheduling should be directed by the parent’s, for the best interest of all.
so i am thinking things over, sorting through my thoughts and feelings, and making adjustments. i feel stirred to create more structure and to move toward more of a schedule. i’m already making efforts to ensure that when he feeds, he doesn’t fall asleep on the breast (at the “cafeteria” as my hubby says!) but rather, has a full feeding (both sides). it’s just so hard when he cries furiously when it’s just been 2 hours since the last feeding, and he gives all the hunger cues. we did buy a pacifier today and he loved it immediately. perhaps it will be the “bridge” to satisfy his (endless) sucking desire, while not cultivating a habit (and milk supply) of snacking vs. feeding?
i would love to hear from the mama’s!! thoughts, ideas, insights, experiences … ? 🙂